#BE

August 30, 2018

 

Being bold does not have to mean being inauthentic to who you truly are.

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I was talking with a potential new coaching client this morning and she is a creative introvert that thrives in one-on-one situations and crumbles when faced with most networking opportunities, from a truck show with potential customers to a friend's wedding reception. She has beliefs around how she “has to” show up to be successful, but that image is in conflict with how she has seen herself for most of her life.

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People that care about her give her advice on where, when and how to "network" to grow her business. Through years of media reinforcement, she formed a belief that in order to be successful she must be a BIG presence.....that she must work the room, be funny, attract attention and engage everyone. During our conversation she said,

 

“ I guess I can fake being that person, but I don't think my dream of business success is strong enough to keep that charade up FOREVER.”

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I shared with her that after years of "faking it" and trying on different styles of BOLD, I felt no closer to being comfortable in crowded social situations. Becoming a coach and being coached has helped me notice the difference between the things that support me and the things that deplete me and given me the tools, and courage, to make changes. 

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After one exhausting networking opportunity I did a little self-reflection and decided to explore what being bold authentically could like like for me. I am not a joke teller, but I am funny when I am relaxed and present. I am not loud, but I can draw people to me energetically. When I stop myself from comparing how I work a room to how others work a room and I am present with the intention of being open, kind, curious and engaged, I make genuine connections and actually enjoy being with a group of people. In those moments, I am boldly and authentically being me.

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should be a certain way is self-sabotaging. You may need some help in dropping self-judgment and coping with the anxiety of social situations, but that Asking for help and doing the work so that you can create success by show up authentically you are all BOLD choices! Being the face of your business can be difficult for introverts. Keeping up a charade is exhausting and not doing anything about the dialog in your head that tells you that you is what being bold is actually about. 

 

 

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